The reason, season or lifetime....

Have you ever noticed how people weave in and out of our lives? Most times they are in our lives for a Reason; a Season; a Lifetime. When we figure out which it is we seem to know exactly what to do.

When someone is in our life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need we have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist us through a difficulty, to provide us with guidance and support, to aid us physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they absolutely are! Whether we know it or not they are here for the exact reason we need them to be. Then without any wrong-doing on our part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force us to take a stand. What we must realise is that our need has been met and our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer we sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into our life for a SEASON, it is because our turn has come to share, grow or learn. They may bring us an experience of peace or make us laugh. They may teach us something we have never done. They usually give us an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a SEASON.

LIFETIME relationships teach us lifetime lessons; those things we must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Our job is to accept the lesson; love the person; and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life. It is said that love is blind but friendship has a special sense.

“True friends are like diamonds precious and rare!”

Author – unknown.

This has to be one of my favourite quotes/poems….

If I have to look back and see all those who have come and gone for a reason, I am saddened but also so incredibly grateful.

Those who are for a season only are sometimes the most difficult to let go of because they have changed your life in such a special way YET you have to be willing to let them go, because, they were only there for that season in your life!

A lifetime, now these are the hardest to accept because they know the depths of your soul, the black and the white of you and they force you to change and become more of the white by asking the tough questions and prodding those bits that are the worst of you….hard relationships that test you daily BUT they make you a better person in the end!

As a chapter draws to a close in my life, and it has been the most incredible experience, I am reminded of this poem and wonder as to which I have been living – the reason, season or lifetime.

Either way, the door closes to allow for a new reason, season or lifetime and although my heart is broken I look forward expectantly to the latest chapter….